Need a Plan for My Marriage

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onthemountaintop,

No apology necessary. I did not take any offense. Tell it the way you see it. I may have taken what was being said to me personally when I first started my thread, but I am okay with what every one has to say.

I do very much have a problem with what she is doing. I am just not for a D as an answer to solve all problems especially with kids. That is just me. I do take responsibility for the mistakes that I have made in the marriage, but I believe we could have worked those out if we only had discussed more our problems, and the importance of them to the other person. My decisions and hers effect the OP in different ways. I can not ask "what if" because I have already done that to myself too many times, but I do ask what can I do to change it now. It will take some effort on her part if there is a chance. There is always a chance, so I will stick it out.

Everybody to some degree tries to help theirself at the same time helping others. I was always told to help someone else to learn how to some thing better to help yourself. This is true in most everything we do.

I am very much in control of myself at the moment because that is all I can control. She has to make her own decisions and accept the consequences of those.