At the moment, I will not file for D because it is not what I want. I will do my best to deal with situation that is constantly changing. It is becoming too much of a game to me. I just choose more and more to not play and continue with my life the best I am able to.
You pretty much have summed it up in your post. I do have some more coming if she puts me in more of a bind to protect myself which will only make life harder for me. This is becoming serious financially. It will probably ruin my credit and put more pressure on her. I can't help it if she does not pay my portion of the bills. Again, I am in a serious bind that progressively becomes worse by the day.
She is out to destroy me, and I know this how. I can't say now, but it will be very ruthless. I have to keep some things to myself as they unfold. I do know that it will probably not work, but I am prepared for it if it does. I see that she is putting her plan in motion little by little with assistance from the OM. It is scary how devious she has become. I am glad I at least know what to expect most of the time to have countermeasures in place for myself and the kids. What she has planned will backfire on her if she does not implement it perfectly. She better hope that I mess up somewhere soon. That will not happen!!!
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Mother's Day is this weekend, and I was trying to figure out what to do, so the kids are happy. I have decided with the little money that I do have I will give to them for taking W to brunch and buying a couple of flowers. I already bought a card. I will let them go just the 3 of them for the kids sake, not hers. She is their mother after all. I want them to enjoy the day with their Mommy.
However, I kind need this money for other things, but it is just money anyways. It is still a hard decision. For the kids, it is not. For her...(fill in the rest)
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What does OM do for a living if you don't mind my asking? Some of the more terrible OM's usually have a job where its required for them to get in peoples business. The spouse was the gatekeeper that opened that door up. Obviously OM and the relationship has turned the wife, that chit happens.
In my affair 10 years ago was powerful emotions, but I had resolve that while I was hurting my relationship that no one would be able to turn me to harming physically or financially my then wife. Believe me, some people tried to coerce me.
Remember in battle the best defense is a great offense. You play defense only, you will get hit.
No apology necessary. I did not take any offense. Tell it the way you see it. I may have taken what was being said to me personally when I first started my thread, but I am okay with what every one has to say.
I do very much have a problem with what she is doing. I am just not for a D as an answer to solve all problems especially with kids. That is just me. I do take responsibility for the mistakes that I have made in the marriage, but I believe we could have worked those out if we only had discussed more our problems, and the importance of them to the other person. My decisions and hers effect the OP in different ways. I can not ask "what if" because I have already done that to myself too many times, but I do ask what can I do to change it now. It will take some effort on her part if there is a chance. There is always a chance, so I will stick it out.
Everybody to some degree tries to help theirself at the same time helping others. I was always told to help someone else to learn how to some thing better to help yourself. This is true in most everything we do.
I am very much in control of myself at the moment because that is all I can control. She has to make her own decisions and accept the consequences of those.
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On the account where the wife pulled the money, I'd get her name off the account. This may mean you open a new account with your name on it only and transfer the funds to it.
Also I'm sure I'm not the only one who wants to understand OM involvement and how they are attempting to destroy you. Everything sounds good up until now and just a couple of weeks ago you had zero control on the situation.
Also I'm sure I'm not the only one who wants to understand OM involvement and how they are attempting to destroy you. Everything sounds good up until now and just a couple of weeks ago you had zero control on the situation.
OM is planning with her what she should do similar to his sitch at home. OMW confirmed this by the discussions of what my W has been doing. I will not go into details, but I my MC and others have told me to be very careful because she is out to get me. There is more that I will not explain at the moment. What do you mean by "Everything sounds good up until now and just a couple of weeks agao you had zero control on the situation."?
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A couple of weeks ago you didn't know you would affair burst for example. It was like you had no control in the situation. Yours is a unique twist in that the spouse is not only leaving but intending to leave you damaged on the way out.
The question is "Why is she out to get you?", it doesn't make sense to me - but I know it happens.
It is her way to have custody of the kids. There is evidence that she may send them off to her parents while she has her A with the OM. Then I will be out of the picture for her to have what she wants without spousal support or child support.
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Not in any shape today to offer any advice. I know you have had a rough go of it lately. You seem to be doing very well under the circumstances and I commend you for that.
I will continue to follow and thank you for doing the same for me.
