Anyone ever wonder?

[I_miss_him]

I envy your H.

Ahhhh....why do statements like this make me tear up??!? I am such a baby! I really need to GAL!

[Gardener]

I think it's because they only see the LBS's faults. They've completely forgotten or disregard anything good so they think there isn't any.

Bingo. Editing memories, rewriting history to justify the unjustifiable. And (perhaps) to assuage guilt somewhere deep down.

And maybe there's some ego involved. They think the LBS will never get over the WAS and will sit there and pine away forever.

Double bingo! Because, after all, the LBS will never change!

[newmama]

warning-vent-about dating-
Ok there are so many guys who think a woman should just be attracted to them the way they are in their T shirt, full on beard and love of ___. But everyone needs to make a good first impression! Not just looks but ask women questions and don't sit there talking about yourself for 45 minutes! Pay a compliment! Don't write some girl off because she isn't as into sports (example) as you are- chances are there is some wiggle room. Do you have other interests besides sports? Sheesh! And what is up with the out of control facial hair? Trim it or shave it.Let us see your handsome smile and mouth!

[newmama]

Well in the Art of Seduction, it is stated that our value goes up when the person we want finds out we are desired by others.

Makes sense...I have seen kids for example totally ignore a toy. One kid goes over to play with it, the group still ignores it. 2 kids start playing with it and the group gets interested..the more kids start playing and the more fighting ensues over who gets the toy!

[Vulcanized]

I think it's just easier for the WAS to think that b/c they don't want you, why would anyone else either? Suddenly, the LBS starts becoming a prized commodity on the open market. WAS then is faced w/the thought of 'hmm, did I make a mistake?'. It's probably just a way for them to protect their ego.

Just my $.02.

[g450]

newmama,

I would be your perfect date.
I have zero interest in sports and zero facial hair.
How sexy am I LOL?

Sooner or later my XW will eventually see me with another woman. Or I may see her with another man. Either way it will be interesting.

My guess is it will bother me to no end to see her with an OM. Not sure how I will react to that. It's almost frightning. On her side I could see her not giving a care in the world what I do either way.

This will be an interesting year in this small town.