Husband left me 3 months pregnant...

[newmama]

Postive+no expecations! PERFECT! You can do this- just do your mantra at the start of each day, when you go to the bathroom (A LOT right? lol!) and you will be that way! I used to get nervous about hearing the D word come out of his mouth so I couldn't always pull it off. But do not worry, at this point your H is more into the baby than D! And besides, you already got the papers, right? So there is no worry, I hope! (they are just papers to be filed and they sit there waiting for action. I think?)

I will say it again-personally I am grateful my WH was there when I gave birth because he was such a great support and because that memory will be there for both of us to share with S. Did it make him come back to me? No. BUt he did kiss the top of my head and cry a lot. It sounds like your H will be very helpful and supportive to you during the birth- I think that if an H was too nervous or squeamish it would cause anxiety in you and make you more ticked off! (Like Piano- if you are reading this-because your H seems to have so much anxiety about some aspect of the birth, I truly think it would increase your stress during birth! Don't be sad that he doesn't want to be there until the end, ok? Remember back in the day, dads weren't allowed in the room!)

About the MILF comment- I was not thinking pornstar! Sorry if that was too vulgar! I was trying to make light of being a mother that can also be a sexy woman! But it isn't just about looks, right- keeping up GAL activities when you are able, or even just keeping in touch with current events and reading regular books (at first you will have a lot of time to watch TV or read especially if you nurse) all are part of the transformation!!!