LL's quote: look in the mirror (yes here it comes the sat night live skit) and say "I'm good enough, I'm smart enough, and gosh darn it people like me"

Funny bit..

I was actually going to post this exercise to you today, Pam.

Earlier this week, I looked in the mirror and told myself all those things that I so long to hear from my H.

I know it sounds goofy but that simple little exercise invoked a deep, comfortable feeling within me.

I can also vouch for the power of silence. I no longer allow myself to immediately respond verbally to feelings of anger, hostility, fear, or hurt. (Ok...sometimes I slip up.... ....just not as often.)
I also have trimmed back on the "questions", you know, the kind that we want an answer to yesterday!

I've also created a policy for myself of "Listen, Review and Wait" The level of discomfort that I often experience in implementing this policy can seem unbearable at times. But after having practiced this over and over again, I've learned that I CAN bear it and have taken back a measure of control in this area of my life.

When my mind tells me that I can't live like this any longer, I gently remind it that "I can" and what's more "I will".

I really like Sage's idea with the chapter by chapter review. I for one, will surely benefit from it.

Jeannine