5 weeks left to DB - need help with my plan

[newmama]

Problem is my H cannot/will not see that our M problems have ANYTHING to do with OW.
And that she is NOT an obstacle in him resolving things with me and the baby.

Friend said H is is major denial of having a crisis. He thinks he is not in crisis.

He also says no one is talking about HIS hapiness. Everyone says he has to be careful of my hapiness, that of the baby, that of the OW even, but he says he has a right to be happy.

SCRIPT, Piano- I have read on survivinginfidelity from the (former) wayward spouses themselves who said during their affair no one could get them to snap out of it-they think this is the real deal and their "heart" (no, d---) rules their thinking. Something makes them hit rock bottom, just like addicts, and they end the A (or it gets ended for them). That is why they call it "the fog" when describing how the wayward spouses act during their A!!!

So I tell you this because just file it in the back of your mind and when their A ends, no matter where you will be, you will get the glimpse of your old H again.

You are wise to act and think as if you are already divorced so that you can make decisions without thinking of him. It held me back during this limbo time- and everyone told me to not think of H. I think "everyone" knows what they are talking about. It will help your sitch! I swear! It shows you are not chasing the relationship anymore and are doing what you want regardless. The downside is that your H KNOWS you won't be getting up and doing anything different in your life for awhile (i.e. changing jobs, dating,something major) since you will have just given birth- you are "safe" and stuck (in his mind).