Well in the Art of Seduction, it is stated that our value goes up when the person we want finds out we are desired by others.
Makes sense...I have seen kids for example totally ignore a toy. One kid goes over to play with it, the group still ignores it. 2 kids start playing with it and the group gets interested..the more kids start playing and the more fighting ensues over who gets the toy!
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
