Thanks for your support, Gatsby, the downside to too much contact in combination with still loving my WH and wanting reconciliation. Am thinking that if I do get to a point where I don't want to reconcile then the contact won't bother me. Or once he has divorced me even!

But it is very very hard.

me,34
exH,34
S,16 months
S:3/31/09-left for OW
started DBing 10/09
d final: sometime 10/10
current:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1
met in 2004