There are no instant results. They say it takes 21 days for a habit to become a habit. That means everyday doing something. I am not saying to try this every day. But just when the opportunity arises. At first yes it will be a thought out thing but soon you will do it without thinking. Also you need to make it feel natural for you. You can't force yourself. For instance don't go over to your wife every time she is washing dishes and put your arms around her. Make it special moments. Otherwise it is just "something to do" and has no meaning. Yes I try t o give my wife a kiss goodbye when I leave for school. BUT I don’t kiss her goodbye EVERTIME she leaves house or then it will be just”Something we do every time” I had an X SIL that used to always do stupid things and would hurt people. She hurt me several times. She always said "I'm sorry" after but after awhile the I'm sorry meant nothing. It was just something she did after she hurt you... There is no rush CL…if you Do it when you can, do it so it feels right /good...And soon you will do it naturally
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
