I am trying to learn how to act from your thread,mb28. This DBing is tough business. I'll never forget when my DB coach told me that some think acting happy and fine will make the spouse feel ok about their decision to divorce. (I thought "well, YEAH...") and he said "but you don't want them to come back to you because they feel sorry for you right? And you do want them to be happy, right?" I always asked- does this apply in infidelity cases? (And no, I don't want WH to be happy!) I did not get a straight answer about the infidelity-told that every case is different but there are common elements.
SO my thinking is that being in the middle/indifferent/poker face makes sense and I think that supports Allen's suggestion,right?
after all, being depressed is unappealing and a turn off. But being happy seems like it means "you are off the hook! I have accepted this! Go forth and file!"
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004