I think its great you and H have spoken about the birth, names, finances, etc. Its helpful to talk things out, right?
About the birth... my honest opinion... sounds like your H is scared of being in an intimate setting because he is afraid of what he can feel for you. I dont think he will be the focus of your day when you are having a natural birth! Maybe you should tell him that... Or maybe he would be okay being in the room if you also had your mother or a doula in the room with you too? So he doesnt have to feel like you are leaning entirely on him. Make him see its not just for you but for the baby too?
As for contacting the OW, be careful it doesnt come back to haunt you. If she is capable of dating a married man with a pregnant wife, after having been your friend, then she must be a B#@&$. What if she gets angry that you asked her to stay away and H defends her, or if she creates more drama and distance between you and H? You've worked so hard DBing your butt off to push H further away! I would think its best to leave her out of it, as if she doesnt exist. Contacting her is giving her an ego boost by saying I know you mean something to H, but I wish you didnt? She doesnt deserve that boost of confidence! and neither does he. By acting like OW doesnt exist will probably annoy her more anyways! And she will feel left out and hopefully fall out of the picture!!! SOON!!!! Like DLS mentioned in my thread, some women like to come between couples and start trouble and create turmoil, and I'm afraid if you ruffle her feathers... the crazy witch may not be so nice, will just feed H and her ego. Just my opinion!
Take the high road! Dont waste a single breath on the OW. She does NOT deserve one minute of your thoughts! Especially with the baby on the way! Act as if she is not even in the picture!
You are too good for that Piano! You've worked to hard.
I know its easier said than done, but dont give her an ounce of credit in why you and H are separated. She is just temporary! My PC one told me when we first met that affairs do NOT last and only 5% actually stay together! That is a failure rate of 95%!
