About having H in the delivery room, I never thought of not having him there as to not see me at my not-so-best moment. I am actually just thinking of the birth as it is, and like that he wants to be in the room for the baby's first breath. H has been in plents of births, as I mentioned he is an RN. But I did hear from close friends and family that most men who are present in the delivery look at their wife in a different light, as the experience is so amazing, and that they tend to think highly of that person and simply have a whole new level of respect for them. Birthing experience is worthy of that in my eyes.
But by all means, you have to be 100% comfortable and wanting of them to be in the room. I am having H in the room bc a) to bond w baby b)b/c I know he will be great support to me c) H has and always brings out a calm in me and makes me feel like I am capable of doing anything. So i think having him in the room with me would really benefit me. Also, I am not sure how I would handle it if H didnt want to be there. I wouldnt force him but I would tell him that he is more than welcome and if not than i guess acceptit. I do believe a birthing coach should be just that and if yH can be supportive, then ask someone else who is to be that role. Now... I dont know how I can manage to look cute in the delivery room, but that day is about me! Dont care what he thinks about how I look!
