I did take H out of my phone, but then when he would call or text or email, I thought it would be easier to have a name for him. I accidentally sent a text to a friend too instead of H; if that doesnt teach you to be careful with what you write! haha In case you need names to replace your H's, I've also used DO NOT ANSWER DO NOT CALL (didnt work for me), Ex-Husband (thought it was too negative - The Secret), Bastard (in my moments of anger), ILYBINILWY (to remind me how he hurt me), but the one that works the best is DETACH. It reminds me to take a deep breath before answering, or writing back, or if I get the urge to write it reminds me not too. So DETACH it is!
Tonight, H called to ask if he could come pick up dog, and I said sure, i need to get in the shower and get ready for tomorrow... and the dog, my baby, was happy to go! H texted me every move dog made while at his parents. And i though H would just drop dog off and drive away, but he parked the car and came in and we just talked. Just about stuff...
I was confident and happy and smiles, acted as if, and I think i kind of noticed him trying to figure me out! hahahahaha!
No pressure, no expectations!
So tomorrow "my neighbor" and I go to a baby doctor appointment together. Will keep you posted! Please send me positive energies that I maintain my cool, and continue to just be!
P, "If you are feeling stressed on the day, consider cancelling on him." Excellent suggestion!
NM, love the neighbor who got me pregnant! (literally) "I am rolling my eyes and gagging myself though when I read that your H said he misses you guys and wishes you went to counseling when you were distant. BECAUSE it's like he is saying "it's too late now-there was a window and alas, it has been shut and can never be open again." I AGREE!!! I was really upset to hear this b/c how does he assume that its too late now! His time line doesnt make sense... he was in love with me November, but December feelings changed!!!! WHAT???
G, try replacing his name with DETACH! It really works! Or come up with something funny, so you can at least laugh off any nervous energy when you see his name on your phone... if you add him back in
DLS, I am taking your advice to just enjoy the moments at that time.
