If you resent XH sharing these things with you because you don't share similar concerns with him, consider that he's opened the door for you to do so.
Share concerns or co-parent? Sounds like simple stuff, doesn't it? Kind of like an alcoholic trying to run a liquor store and keep it all to business...not something I think I have in me.
I have never been quick to come back or defend my position, especially when I am taking it personally. It is a major improvement that I just shut up, maybe nod that I heard him. So, he just gets to be critical and I stand there and seem to take it. I guess, mostly I do. Whenever I have tried to share my point or explain my actions, he finds a way to twist it all around that things are my fault and that I messed something up, yet again. I mean, he is perfect at that, just like my mother used to be (me, a straight-A goody-goody who was never good at all in her eyes).
OK, more FOO crap. Trying to work out old wounds, yada yada yada... I give up trying to persuade this man that I am worthwhile, good - gave it up a long time ago by going NC. It was all useless - he refuses to see it. How are you supposed to co-parent or share with someone like that? So, I simply don't engage. In the majority of interactions (including email) he dumps on me, and I just let it lie there.
