Happy to hear about your S9. Things will work out with that. Did I ever tell you there is an autistic guy working in my office doing the same job as me? He's super smart and doing well too.
Sorry to hear your X is considering moving an hour away and to lesser schools. It's obvious the reason for that isn't your boys. Have you confirmed that for sure? What does the parenting coordinator say about that? The lack of services doesn't make it sound in your boys' best interest.
NC, I used to pray every night for my X, now I just do it when I remember. Detaching feels good...