I can understand why he wouldn't file for a divorce; that would require him to start paying child support and perhaps alimony.
The book mentioned in the above reply is called: This Is Not The Story You Think It Is, by Laura Munson.
Yes true.....but we do not have seperate bank accounts. As it stands I still an a SAHM with all access to his money. He has not expressed a desire to change this in the near future. So that takes that position out of the equation...because he would probably have more money if we divorced....if that makes sense.