Hi Pam. I just spent an hour reading your last two threads - and my head is spinning! They filled up quickly but had recurring themes throughout:

1. Take care of Pam's physical and mental health.
2. Focus of small goals.
3. Get a life outside of your home and computer.
4. Revisit the DB/DR principals.
5. Forget about focussing on CHL and focus on Pam.

Other things I can relate to are the feeling of being overwhelmed with household upkeep. Keep in mind that I am taking care of 3 young'ins and a house by myself. But I get a great sense of accomplishment in knowing that sine my H left I have learned to use the riding mower, cleared the brush from our garden, knocked down a wall, painted and decorated both boy's bedrooms, painted the family room, etc, etc, etc.

I made a pact with myself that I would get out of the chair, put down the books (one of my favorite things) and keep moving and doing. I could easily settle in to a chair and read, sleep or watch TV - but I can't let myself.

Develop a new habit of doing. It doesn't matter what you choose to do - just that you do something. Keeping busy is a wonderful remedy for keeping your mind off of your H, for generating some PMA and for checking things off the long-neglected to do list around the house.

I am definately checking out the flybabies thread - I am all over the idea of organizing. The one show that I do try to catch is a new one on TLC called Clean Sweep (of course I am cooking dinner and supervising homework while doing it - ). Not that I can do what they do, but seeing that other people have worse messes and are less organized than me is great for the PMA!

So Pam, my household goal this weekend is to start to organize and declutter the kid's playroom. What is yours? Can I challenge you to see if we can both accomplish them together?

Hope you are sleeping well, as you can see I really need to get to bed myself, but wanted to catch up with you!

(((((PAM))))). Just cuz I haven't posted, doesn't mean I'm not thinking of you!



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