She Say's She Want's Out Of The Marriage

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This boundary I drew caused her to pause and think about things. She actually took the afternoon off just to come up to our rental property I'm remodeling to talk.

She for the first time told me she doesn't want a D. Wow, where did that come from. I told her I felt unloved, unappreciated, and disrespected due to the way she's been treating me around the house.

She said she knows she's been acting inappropriately, but she was doing it because she felt I forced her back before she was ready. We cleared the air on that (I think). She said that she would stop acting like she has been. She also said she wanted to go for coffee after MC this week.

The only weird thing was that she had envisioned us dating. What she envisioned was me picking her up at the house and us going out, almost like being boyfriend and girlfriend. This is good and all, but to follow through with what she envisions, she still see's us rotating in and out of the rental property.

She has this vision so entrenched in her brain that after moving back to the house, she still wants us to live separately while we date. I find this strange since she's already back in the home. Anyway, this could change over time, but we'll see.

Hopefully things will start to be good again. It was nice to hear her finally say she doesn't want a D. That means she's backed off of her previous stance. The stance she had before I got home and we actually started talking and working on issues.

Hopefully we can continue to move in a forward direction, but I know we will hit snags along the way.