I would even tell him you had any fun. He may just be looking for some assurance that D is HELPING you... That was his reasoning, that you would be happier if you were divorced.

Well, if you aren`t happy with the way he is arranging things don`t tell him you are. I am not suggesting you get into a debate, but if he asks if you are happy I would just ignore the question... he`s very likely looking for reassurance... my wife did that to me during her affair.. she was always asking me if I was `feeling ok`... I just gave her the standard glare and she walked away.

I wouldn`t give him ANY POSITIVE reactions right now. If he presses just say that you would be happier if your children weren`t coming from a broken home... that should shut him up.

Your H in particular seems to take temp readings quite a lot.. more than many do... I wouldn`t give him the satisfaction of finding out how you feel... And I would ask your mutual friends to NOT pass info on to H about you... keep him out of the darn loop.

I just get the sense that he`s got a lot of doubts and he`s looking to YOU to reassure him he`s pushing his marriage in the right direction... which he`s not... but if you show him you are happy or tell him you are he will take that as a thumbs up.