Thanks for the input. Please keep 'em coming! It's a hard decision because while I want to have the source of intelligence, I'm killing myself with it and can't say anything w/o causing harm anyway. He had a lot of instant messaging over the weekend and when I asked about it he was compliant at first but then said he "wasn't in a position to prove himself to me". Im pretty sure he's having (at least in part) an MLC.

Thanks again all comment appreciated for this tough decision. Maybe it would be a good move for me to SHOW him I'm not going to monitor it by getting it turned over to him?

M--14 years
T--20 years, HS sweethearts
dday #1--2002 EA
dday #2--2005 bar sl*t
dday #3/4--Feb 2010 texting/cell/physical/who knows what
Shortly after found out he had been injecting steroids for 2 years