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[pigskin]

Just go back to what you were doing before - ignoring her irritability and focusing on the kids and having fun with them.

Everything that needs to be said on your end has been said. She knows where you stand. Fight the urge to restate your position every other day. Don't reason with her. She needs to be the one to initiate reconciliation. Just leave her to be miserable alone. When/if she is ready, she needs to take the first step or you will be whipsawed out of your detachment.

Such a cliche, but take it one day at a time. Worrying about tomorrow is counterproductive. You will be fine either way your situation shakes out - just pray on it when you feel anxiety.

By the way, I thought you had already spoken with a lawyer. Is that not the case?