Pam -- I used to complain a lot that my h never talked to me. Then the bomb dropped, I found DB and because I didn't have ANY CLUE what to say or do I stopped talking -- not in a giant, mopey, sulky way but in a I'm just gonna quiet down, say A LOT less than I want and see if I can regroup.
You know what happened?
The man finally had some space in which to talk. And talk he did.
I'm NOT suggesting go dark...I'm suggesting that if you said even 50% of what you really wanted to say to David that would leave a whole heck of a lot of room for him to talk.
Now, hon, I'm NOT talking about instant results. 'cause when I shut up my h was like..hey, what's that sound? Um, nothing...and he walked around in a DAZE for a bit.
same here....man I never knew just how much of a chatter box h could be if I just shut the hell up once in a while.
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I had an idea this AM and then didn't have a chance to give it FULL ATTENTION so I didn't post it. I see that you took the Flylady challenge...
SOOOOOOOOO...let me ask you THIS: are you GAME for another challenge -- SAGE style??????
It won't hurt...it may help...and well, it'll keep me off the streets and on the right path....
You'd be helping me A LOT if you said "yes".
If you want more details...let me know :-)
Sage
leave it to sage to leave us hangin' LL
I am going to try working on this when I see David from now on out and see if my changing will prompt him to talk more to me.
Also probably need to work on style a bit. Still reading JJ's communication thread. Trying to pick up stuff from it.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
