You are getting good advice I saw your post on my thread about you contacting H.
You got the answer I would give here.
Everyone is trying to help you see that YOU are in control of this pain. You can't see that yet. But you are. I have been using this metaphor to describe my own healing.
Pain is actually your friend. It will lead to the right place for YOU. You are so full of pain right now why? Because of the interaction and attachement to H. SEE? What is your pain telling you? Your pain will speak to you if you listen.
interaction=attachement=pain
detachment=healing
=strength=loving detachment
loving detachment=acceptence=forgiveness
GF you HAVE to do this! You'll be stuck if you don't.
You'll be no good to YOU, Your kids or your M. Once you start it gets easier you gain so much power within yourself when you take control. Believe me.
What to do:
Don't contact H for any reason. Try not to think about H Occupy your time with something that takes your mind off H Don't get on FB or any other place to learn about H Don't talk to kids about H Keep yourself from sitautions in which you're reminded of H, No music that makes you sad. Put rubber band on your wrist and when you think about H give yourself a sting with it. ( I actually did this for a few days)
This is what I had to do and the first week was hell and I counted each day, one day at a time, each day I got stronger...each day I felt more power rising inside me.
Here is the clincher though are you ready? Listen to me now....
YOU HAVE TO DO THIS WITH ABSOLUTELY NO EXPECTATIONS OF H
Did you hear me? I said that VERY loudly so you would.
YOU HAVE TO DO THIS FOR YOU.
Do this now GF don't wait you're losing days toward your healing.
Do it NOW.
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
