Quote: I don't read his thread either. I promised I wouldn't and he doesn't read this one.
I don't know. I told Zoo this evening over IM I think I am about over it. no you aren't I agree, but I want this to be over
He doesn't seem interested in working on anything with me anymore. then what the hell is he doing here asking for help, insight and guidance??? this isn't a how to get a clean happy d site...it's a how to have a succesfull happy m site! I don't really know why he started posting to his own thread. I didn't even know he was going to do it. But you, Cal and Opt are right, he must be looking for something to help him know about the marriage.
He isn't interested in the house, me, the shelties, spending any time together or talking to me anymore. assumptions! Just based on recent actions, I know could be a zillion other reasons he doesn't talk or come over anymore.
He was doing some of that stuff and now he has backed way off of everything. and what are some things that you were doing that you've changed? think real hard. Actually I will have to read some of my threads again as I thought up untill the past two days I have been doing a whole lot better with our interactions!
I know some of this is PMS and a lack of PATIENCE. I'd be willing to bet it's more than just SOME of it Well let's just say 99.99% of it.
Some of it is I just don't think I will ever be able to please him. He is a perfectionist and I am in no ways perfect. what if..what if that is the exact message you are sending to him? that he isn't good enough and can't seem to please you I think, not sure I guess, that he knows how much I think of him and respect his opinions and how happy he makes me when he participates in our R.
I sort of think we are just prolonging the inevitable. Told him before I left work I would see about getting with attorney soon. would you please stop doing that!!! unless of course you truly honestly whole heartedly WANT to do that...stop dropping bombs all over the place. k? But I'm not doing it till I feel better. I don't feel like dealing with all of that right now. Sometimes I think he and I would be better off just getting it over with, but I'm not sure that I'm not too emotional to make that decision right now.
now I know I've just been pretty hard on you but I think you can take it.
now go take a nice hot shower or bubble bath and chill out for a while in front of the fire watching thursday night tv...there's good stuff on...will & grace..scrubs...er...and that's just one channel...or go for a ride and rent a goofy movie...one that you wouldn't watch with people around (I happen to love hair and labrynth used to watch them alot) something fun for you and forget about "stuff" for a bit.
LL
Thank you LL, most appreciated!
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
what if..what if that is the exact message you are sending to him? that he isn't good enough and can't seem to please you I think, not sure I guess, that he knows how much I think of him and respect his opinions and how happy he makes me when he participates in our R. 
