Just to add: Wife also says that I have told her that I want us to try to work on things (I have in the past) but she doesn't see how I am trying. I know she has seen changes. I have not brought them up. I call her out on bad behaviour and when she stayed out until 1:30am, I said that it was unacceptable. I didn't whine and pout or ask who she was with. Just that it was not right especially without a phone call.
Is this her trying to push me or test me? As I mentioned before, I have told her that I agree, it's over, but it's her choice and she should be the one to leave. I told her the same Sun. "Don't think I won't take these kids and leave." she said. Go ahead, just make sure you have a L because I will and he will be filing papers to protect my kids. Later, I said that she would have to be the one to file since it was her choice not to try. Did contradict myself? IDK.
Last night, she got several phone calls while I was playing with the kids. She went outside and the phone rang and I answered it. It was a guy asking for her. I said, sure, hang on just a second. I opened the door and gave her the phone. When she came in, she told me it was just such and such from where the track meet will be on Fri. I said, okay and went back to what I was doing.
Is she testing me? Is this, like PDT had said, a short term setback that will be good in the long run? As in, she knows I'm serious about boundaries and her disrespectful behaviour?
If you couldn't tell, I could use some encouragement today!
