Can you see the Morning After

[sage]

I actually DON'T talk as much as I used to before.

Ummmm...I didn't say that you did?

Like when he was over to work on the computer I was mostly quiet. He thought that visit went real well.

I felt like I was on eggshells not to say too much or the wrong things and piss him off.

Not what I called a good visit at all, but it worked for him.

Pam, did you read what I wrote?

I said something like:
I stopped talking as much
h started talking
patience, patience, patience and then some witty comment about how h heard silence and didn't recognize it.

DO you want to have conversations with David or not, Pam?

It's not about who gets to talk more...it's about leaving room for the other person to be ABLE to speak. I talk a LOT faster than my h. If all I did was talk when I wanted, he'd never get a chance to say anything...

You know what? My life is a LOT richer by talking less and listening more. I hope that his is too.

But Sage is that the way I want to live my life? I can't help it I LIKE to talk.

I find it enjoyable. I do like my quiet times as well, but I don't want all my time to be quiet time.

Do you like to TALK, Pam or do you like to engage in conversation with another person?

There's a big difference.

If it's the former...cool...talk away.

I thought that we were bemoaning the fact that you didn't feel as though you could CONVERSE with David...if that's the case...well...you MAY have to change your style of conversing.

I think (an ASSumption) that you are really personalizing this...maybe what I offered up...maybe what D. offered up on other posts...

Sage