The reason a MIL doesn't like the SIL and the reason a friend would tell a spouse to leave their spouse is for ONE REASON..
Yo, settle down there, Gooch! Contrary to your apparent opinion of your intellect, you don't exactly comprehend what I've said, apparently.
One reason I'm "obsessed" with it, is because I've "been there done that" already . . .and it is a HUGE roadblock that we SHOULD be seeking solutions to, or at least mitigating partial solutions, if possible.
And . . .as I made 105% obvious already, I'm WELL AWARE that it is HER feeding the friends the bad info. What is also clear is I KNOW that's how it works. The question . . .again . . .is what have folks experiences here been with trying to mitigate the damage. As you pointed out it ISN'T rocket science. Already knew that too, so drop the condescending crap with me, really. If you want to act superior by falsely implying I'm some sort of lovesick, possibly defective dumbass . . .move to another thread please.
As for what my is wife saying, is there any "truth to it" I get your implication, and frankly, you're off base and out of line. I haven't been there when they talk, so how in the heck would I know there is any truth to what she's saying or not?
I do place the blame on my wife, inasmuch as she IS the one consulting people potentially poisonous to our relationship . . . again, not rocket science.
And I'm NOT dancing all around the issue. I thought my intent for this thread was pretty clear: I'm seeking ideas/anecdotal experiences with ways other folks have dealt with this situation, both successfully and unsuccessfully, for ALL of our benefits. Not rocket science, here Gooch, please keep it topical, or find someone else to crack on.
Life may be short, but . . . well . . . it actually IS short, now that I think about it . . . . particularly when compared to planetary formation and stuff.
