Yep. when our first son was 18 months old, he was deployed & felt that I had been neglecting him & he had an A over there. Supposedly no sex, but whatever. Doesn't matter - he was close with another woman intimately and that's what matters.

Second, he was deployed again. Supposedly met this chick that worked @ the hotel they were staying in out at a bar or something. She supposedly knew all about me & our son (still only had one). Supposedly she used her master key, went into his room & gave him a blow job. He kicked her out after it happened b/c he felt so bad about it. (Oh big F'ing waaaaah)

Third (that I know of) EA before & during D sitch.

Also, I'm still not sure if there was 1 or 2 women while he was deployed the first time. Truly I don't care. It doesn't matter. 1, 2 or 10, it's all the same thing.

This is the kicker. The way I found out about the first affairs was when he wrote me a letter & gave it to me when I was on maternity leave w/ our second son. Guilt had just gotten to him & he needed to clear his chest. Whatever -- I truly believe he was wanting me to kick him out at that point, but I was not emotionally where I could have done that at that time.

Me: 38
H: 35
S4, S5, S10
Bomb 01/07
Wanted D - nothing would change his mind
Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb
Piecing 04/07
Deployed for a year 05/07
Still Piecing 2010
M 11 yrs 05/10