MLCer or addicted infidel?

[WhatNow]

Last week we had a few emails re: $ transfers. cool and calm.

Sat. H took DD16 to a driving class and then to dinner. She drives so he didn't come to the house. Has only been here twice in 18 weeks and didn't want to come in when DS invited him. "Too hard" he said. He did come in for prom night and complimented the looks of the house but was uncomfortable. Told me how to restake a tree after he tried w/o new stakes.

H invited DS to go to batting cages on Sun. I was to drop him on my way to a charity luncheon w/ DD. H didn't want me to just drop him, but to wait for him. (Weird. did he want to see me? H is usually late, so I balked at waiting.) He also said he would stake up the tree when he dropped DS off. I told him not to worry, I would get around to it. He insisted he would do it so I said Thank you!

When it came time to leave, DS refused to go. I apologized to H. I couldn't tell if he was relieved or disappointed. H hasn't seen DS since mid-march at 2 of DS's Baseball games. He has only seen him 2 other times, once for a Dr appt and once for a movie since Christmas! This after reassuring DS he would be at Most of his games this season!

Anyway, i suggested he try getting him after school someday. H picked up on that right away and said he'd get him on Tues, go to the cages and dinner, then take him to the game. But then he was going to Karate lesson so he couldn't stay for the game.

Yesterday, we spoke a half dozen times about unimportant business details. It was like our old convos. Old H was back for a day!

No, i do not have any expectations from his new interest in the kids and house and talking business with me. Well, I do expect it not to last.

H just called again for details on picking up DS. Was chatty but I wanted to get back to getting this out!

I feel I should post these things as they come up. I get so distracted reading here however. I also get frustrated b/c so many links take me back to the Open Forum page. Anyway around that? Still can't figure out the MLC stages.

My biggest question is How much friendliness is enough to keep the door ajar without allowing for cake-eating. The safer he feels around me, the less depressed he seems.

I do not want him to get the idea I am OK with the way things are but I do want him to know I am a safe haven. It is a delicate dance.