Well, ok, but this is the email I was proposing to maybe *start* the convo:

H, I have been feeling that things aren't quite right with us right now. I realize we haven't had a lot of alone time lately and therefore don't feel the closeness we used to have, but the HUGE indicator to me right now is your lack of interest in sex. For the past few years, it seems to me that I am always the one who has to initiate, but for the past couple of weeks, you haven't seemed interested AT ALL. This is not "normal" for the husband I know & love.

I hope we can talk about this & get the air cleared. I love you!

Me: 38
H: 35
S4, S5, S10
Bomb 01/07
Wanted D - nothing would change his mind
Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb
Piecing 04/07
Deployed for a year 05/07
Still Piecing 2010
M 11 yrs 05/10