The story of us

[DaddyLongShanks]

You want him? Get a date with him and make it fun without talking about past relationship problems.

[bel44]

we have done that. but that is persueing. if i initiate it.... and our dates dont seem to change much of anything.

[Bridgestone]

and our dates dont seem to change much of anything.

same people doing the same things realize the same result...

work on being a different person and/or doing different things

[DaddyLongShanks]

abqbelly,

Maybe both of you should go into the date without being "so observant". I'm thinking that being overly analytical is hurting us sometimes.

[MrBond]

First thing to do is realize that not everything is your fault. All WASs talk in absolute negatives. It may be because deep down inside they know what they're doing is wrong, but to alleviate the guilt, they blame the LBS for everything.

Happened to me and pretty much everyone else on here. Stop beating yourself over things that may or may not have happened. Reality is that he's not there. So what are you doing for yourself in the meantime? Get rid of the guilt. Learn from actual mistakes.

[bel44]

thank you every body. but we are seperated, should i just back off and let him ask me out and contact me is my maqin question, i feel like its time to do that... what do you all think? is that a bad call?

[MrBond]

No it's not a bad call. Let's face it, when you contact him now he's confrontational. So why bother contacting him if you know that's the response you're going to get?

[bel44]

he is not always confrontational. i guess i should just let him call me if he wants to talk. hes the guy, right?

[bel44]

i'mn trying to ask you guys if i should ask him out and dates and call him or if i should just leave him alone. hes not always mean, just sometimes.

[MrBond]

Leave him alone for now. Let him call you. Stop dwelling on it and go out to keep your mind occupied.