I'm thinking about asking her if she wants to "work" on things. This will be HER last chance. Then decide my next course of action.
No, you make your mind up first - lead (very attractive). If given the choice, she sees you waiting on her (unatttractive) and she doesn't want to choose. She wants you to be who she desires. Decide that you will be OK no matter the outcome - D or reconciliation. This is the Stockdale Paradox - parallel path concept. Don't tell her anything let your actions speak for you.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
