I took the advice on here and "unfriended" all non-family females on FB. I didn't say anything b/c I figure she'll look at my friend list on her own and see it. She still has a few non-family male friends. I won't push it for now.
Really no update on OM and OMW. OMW never responded to my two FB messages. I guess my next step would be to use a pay site to find her home #. Kind of mixed on that. I'm pretty sure there has been no contact between W and OM for at least 2 months. I see the cell phone and text numbers and I can see web activity through a keylogger. Yes, I know they could be using other methods.
Things have been somewhat better for us. I'm sure my DB'ing is helping, but I wasn't expecting some of her responses. In response to the "new me" I've been told that I must be "bipolar" and things along those lines. I've been asked by W, "Who are you?" W has also stated that my changes and new interests must be b/c I'm having an affair. I guess I need to just keep doing this (DB) and be more consistent.