Your Mr Reliable, its always good to hear from you even if your pipe never gets action. Oh even better, the other guy is given ownership to your wifes love tunnel. Your not the only one, LOL.
Well, I think the "other guy" situation is over, not that I have definitive data on a continuing basis, or that it matters at this point.
Anyway, I dropped off the kids this morning. Future former told me that she and her friend (who has also initiated divorce) were reminiscing last night and that we guys aren't "all bad" -
Huh? Sorry, but she gets to say I'm not "all bad"? Grrrr. I don't think I'm that bad at all. Seriously, she does what she's done and turns around and says that I am not all bad. Nice.
I honestly think I need to keep myself just a little bit angry at her beacuse I do miss her.
I didn't respond. Just kind of said, OK, well, have a good day, see ya.
G, you're right man! you gotta stay a bit angry, what she did was not fair to you or the kids. She was selfish and self-centered- probably still is. Just that now she's feeling the finality of things especially if her A is over. She needs to feel the consequences of the life she's created for all of you guys.
Stay cordial in your conversations but remind yourself that this was her decision not yours. When she was so sure about what she wanted now that she has it she's still not happy- thought that's a good thing. If she was happy it may hurt more.
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
Good to catch yourself on that. It is so easy when bad information comes in to want to respond or retaliate against it. It is better to sit on it for a while and act prudently without anger getting in the way.
I am admittedly engaging in some self-indulgent dwelling today. It occurs to me that I'm responding to having the appointment set. Hey, that a good thing about having kids, is you can recognize acting out.
Now I'm considering having porcupine quills grafted into my skin. Yeah, come try to give me a hug now, woman...
This is the message that I'm not going to send:
Originally Posted By: Imagined Geronimo
You kind of annoyed me this morning when you said I'm not all bad. You don't get to say that anymore. I know I'm not all bad. In fact, I'm awesome. I'm an awesome man, an awesome father, and an awesome partner, and you know what - all that is going to go to someone else now. So go ahead and reminisce, because that's all you have now, as per your choice.
It is good to not send that - If you did, it would then be called arguing and she would probably forget that you are "not all bad".
I think that it is funny that it takes 2 of them to have a reminiscing discussion and come to a conclusion that their guys are not all bad. You have to find some humor in some of this batchit crazy stuff that walk away's do.
