Just thinking - if you are picking up his things, then is he losing the opportunity to have reality hit him? He is losing the chance to feel remorse and choose to change.
IF he wants to, him getting his stuff may be the turning point if there is one.
Plus, the kids might associate you getting his things as the reason they lose a parent - in other words, they may blame you because you are collecting. Let him.
Speculating what Luv's children may or may not think is not helpful. Luv has sat down with her children and talked with them at length about what is going on and the children were more than aware of how many nights Luv's H chose not to come home.
The legalities of divorce (temporary orders) often require us to change how we DB or if we choose to continue to DB. Unless you have began the process of a LEGAL divorce (not just talking about it) then sometimes we have to do certain things a certain way when one party has been granted certain things via the legal system.
Isn't part of healthy communication NOT speculating? We all have the right to post our opinions but speculating that Luv's children may blame her when Luv has taken great care to communicate to her children seems hurtful IMO.
