You have good advice, and I'm liking the "dating" concept if you are a LBS. I had this same concept in that I noticed some trends.
If I got outside attention from the opposite sex, even if my now WAS spouse did not know of it, she would usually draw closer to me or have a need to "mark" me. Usually if a female was coming onto me hard or they where having strong attraction, my wife would instinctually know it and respond positive.
If I was not getting outside attention, she usually did not want to be bothered with me.
All spouses are not like this, many spouses will have a high interest level for you no matter how "the world" is percieving you at the recent moment.
Others of ours, have gotten "out there" themself, so they are seeing it as "the world" or a single person would.
I guess in short it makes sense to retain attractive qualities and to get social life blood from being out and about.
