Also, I make a huge effort to never be moody. It reall upsets him if I am moody and he is afraid I am going to "blow". I have told him do not let me mood affect your mood.
He can't help it though. I don't know how to change this dynamic.


And honestly, I have to admit, if he is having a hard day- it does affect me still. I have to remind myself of the above. His moods should not dictate my moods. But there is a twinge.

M38, H37
S3, S7
Together 15 yrs
Married 8 yrs
Bomb July 2008
Inhouse separation
"I hate you" "We are over" (too many times to count)
Reconciled Sept 2009 (still worth it)