Dday, I am totally getting what you are saying. Really understand,

In my instance my hubby was always unsure of what to say so I now tell him this is what I like to hear. I think it relieves some anxiety for him.

But, there are some, self included, that this routine "I better say this, or I better say that" becomes the demise of the marriage for them. Escpecially when, like myself, your natural instinct is a 'say it like it is' type person.


You are right on that, I do know that my hubby is afraid of stepping on landmines. So I need to work on that. I am super sensitive. I have improved greatly but there are slip-ups....


But there are some days where I just want to scream (I don't). This is easy! Why don't you just GET IT! lol! But men and women are different so... I guess different communications styles. Different reactions, different thoughts.

M38, H37
S3, S7
Together 15 yrs
Married 8 yrs
Bomb July 2008
Inhouse separation
"I hate you" "We are over" (too many times to count)
Reconciled Sept 2009 (still worth it)