Listen until he starts to berate & belittle you, making personal attcks and/or reading your mind. Then calmly tell him you aren't going listen to him when he talks to you disrepctfully, that you need a time out, then hang up.
Him sharing his feelings is one thing, doing it disrepctfully is another. Let him know you want to hear him, but only if he can do it respectfully.
Originally Posted By: abqbelly
and how do you guys deal with the guilt that keeps you up all night going over and over all the stuff YOU did wrong?
I worked on my issues in IC, took the pieces that I "did wrong" in my M, accepted responsibility for them, forgave myself first, then asked for his forgiveness.
My mantra for awhile was "i did the best I could with what I knew and had for skills... I can do better tomorrow"
You can handle this Peace Bridge
Divorced 03/2010 Mom to two amazing kids
Taking the road less traveled because those encountered on the way may be just as unique.
