Deep, dark, ugly thoughts that I don't want

[dday101798]

When men feel anxious or threatened or see a stressful moment I think they like to retreat, IMO.

Well, to not quote a few other things here, you do say you practically "program" his responses and scuttle his own voice.

True, I think most men, self included buy into this to an extent in wise notion to avoid a scolding for speaking their own mind.

But, there are some, self included, that this routine "I better say this, or I better say that" becomes the demise of the marriage for them. Escpecially when, like myself, your natural instinct is a 'say it like it is' type person.

This is part of our work in progress for myself and (x)W.

LOL, I remeber during the D (really bad time), I grew a goatie (s/p). And one time (x)W walked walked in asked, "what the hell is that on your face?" and I didn't hessitate to respond "what the hell is that on your hed" in reference to this ungodly shade of red dye she used, looke like Ronald McDonald afer dabbing in a new career as an electrician. We both paused and laughed, despite how much animosity we had toward each other at that point in time.