Deep, dark, ugly thoughts that I don't want

[june72]

Hi redheadwife- thanks! I am an erratic poster but will look at your thread and try to update mine occasionally.

I think many men just don't like to "talk" period. Like it is true torture for them.


Had another episode this weekend. His response- why are you doing this. My response I am upset and telling you what I need. I need to hear you say such and such on occasion.

All ended well though.


Can you send emails or use letters instead? I have read that men are best with peripheral talk. Talk while both of you are involved in tasks- like shoveling dirt or folding laundry. Talking just for talking is harder for them...


I staight up tell my hubby exactly verbatim what to say to me if I ask A, B, or C. ie. "Do you still find me attractive" His response better be some variation of "God yes, you are so beautful to me" haha!!

I tell him see I am making it easy for you. You will know exactly what to say.

I also need to read up more on "flooding" and "stonewalling"


When men feel anxious or threatened or see a stressful moment I think they like to retreat, IMO.

I definitely need to read Men walk, Women talk