I mentioned to my mother a couple weeks back that I expect my XW to be remarried before the end of 2011 and probably sooner than that. She agreed. The XW just seemed hellbent to get another man back in her life even before filing.
Funny thing is she has been emailing with long winded messages this week and is so friendly. I assume she is on cloud nine with her latest OM. Our 15th wedding anniversary is this Thursday yet she again felt compiled to inform me she would be out of town this weekend.
I guess I shouldn't feel this way but I hope this latest relationship blows up in her face. But maybe this is the "one".
How did the information get extended to you? What was the tone of the delivery? I'm bracing myself for the day.
Hang in there man.
M48/W47 M15/T22 S3 D3 In House Separation 10/06/09 W files for D 10/16/09 OM1 discovered 10/28/09 (PA) OM2 in mix early Jan. W moved out 1/26/10 In Mediation (Settlement in prep)
The ex sent me an email yesterday morning letting me know they were engaged. I responded by not responding and then sent her a seperate email to discuss some kid scheduling stuff. On Sunday when she picked up the kids and on Monday morning when she was dropping them off, she was not wearing the ring. She was wearing it when she picked them up later on Monday (after she had informed me). I did not say anything about it and it almost looked like she was trying to hide it...like she thought I did not know. I think I suprised her by not commenting on her new sitch.
In any case, I feel like I am doing pretty good given this weird circumstance.
The reality of all of this is starting to sink in for the kids so I will need to monitor them very closely. I talked to them yesterday about all of this and they told me they want things to be the way things use to be...hard to hear when there is nothing you can do about it.
How are things going for you? Do something fun on Thursday.
Email huh? Interesting. It's funny that we both received emails that are out of the ordinary yesterday. I still don't quite get the sudden extra friendly barrage from my kook. I have to suspect as I said before she is on a high with her new OM sitch. I'm certain it has nothing to do with warming up to me.
Forgive me for not knowing but is your X living with this dude? If so for how long?
I get not making mention of her engagement I choose not to acknowledge most of my X's OM related announcements as well unless of course it directly has an affect on the kids.
Given the latest revelation in your sitch I'm thinking something may emerge from this weekend away that my X is taking, with I assume the OM.
One of the curious offers my X made in the emails from yesterday was I can drop in with notice on the weekends she has the kids if I want to. Sounds like cake eating but not sure what to make of it. I'm not interested in subjecting myself to any additional time around her. I didn't respond nor will I. I think they want to get some kind of rise out of us and when they don't it can be frustrating for them.
Sounds like you are handling things well and yes the circumstances are not pleasant but they haven't been for quite awhile. You get to a point where you can anticipate the next BS coming around bend.
I'm doing okay as well. I haven't heard a peep from my attorney on the draft settlement agreement and I just want to get it over with. I've been dragging my feet on getting the house listed and I need to get my head of of my a$$ on this.
That's tough about the kids, I feel for you. My kids are to young or so I think to make troubling statements like that. All you can do is be the best dad possible and hope they are not damaged by the whole mess.
I'm probably going to need to hit the grocery store Thursday in prep. for the weekend with the kids. I'll watch a little NBA as well.
Keep me posted DW.
M48/W47 M15/T22 S3 D3 In House Separation 10/06/09 W files for D 10/16/09 OM1 discovered 10/28/09 (PA) OM2 in mix early Jan. W moved out 1/26/10 In Mediation (Settlement in prep)
I think you are right about things happening fast that is certainly been the trend since the SHTF. In my favor seems highly unlikely and I'm managing my expectations as such.
As for Cinco de Mayo. I don't have any plans, I saw the kids off this morning and won't see them until after work on Friday. I'm still on alcohol hiatus (going on 190+ days)and although I will drink again I'm staying dry until the divorce is rubber stamped. Plus most of friends are married with children and those that aren't don't live to close to me.
How about you? Margarita's in order?
M48/W47 M15/T22 S3 D3 In House Separation 10/06/09 W files for D 10/16/09 OM1 discovered 10/28/09 (PA) OM2 in mix early Jan. W moved out 1/26/10 In Mediation (Settlement in prep)
Thanks Brother. Enjoy, make my margie a stiff one. Later.
M48/W47 M15/T22 S3 D3 In House Separation 10/06/09 W files for D 10/16/09 OM1 discovered 10/28/09 (PA) OM2 in mix early Jan. W moved out 1/26/10 In Mediation (Settlement in prep)
Hey guys, it has been a while since I have posted anything so like MSH I thought I would do a little journaling...
Last week was really tough, have not been out of sorts like that in sometime. The catalyst was that my ex took the kids to Chicago for an extended weekend with the OM (her sister's family went as well). I am still having a tough time with the OM factor and my kids. I know I need to accept this since this issue is not going to go away. She and the OM are getting married sometime in August and based on what my kids are telling me, they are planning on having a child together.
IMO this is a high risk move on her part. She is going to be 44, she has only been divorced for a few months (seperated for about a year)and he is 11 years younger. This could be the best decision she has ever made of the worst. When I start thinking about what she is teaching the kids about marriage and family I get sick to my stomach. I still have not met the OM and really do not see a reason to do so but really not sure on this. I do not hate him, but I do hate what he has done and what he represents.
My current relationship with the ex is probably worse than good. I do not like talking to her or being around her. She views this as me being mean...our persepctives are so different. I am still broken over the break-up of a family, while she is starting a new one. I am doing everything I can to be civil but it is still so dam hard being around her or even communicating with her via email.
