Husband left me 3 months pregnant...

[newmama]

Yes babydoll, you are 100% correct that this is the time you can show H how wonderful you are without pursuing or anything. But you must have no expectations or he will see through it. And yes, it is good to retrain your brain to just think of him as the baby's father! It will be really hard to bond over the baby and not have feelings for him. Just remember that unless he is a stone statue, he will feel something for you as well. Oxytocin is released...he won't be able to help it. But I wish I would have had your mindset back then and "acted as if" I had accepted we would be Ding. It might have made a difference.