G, you're right man! you gotta stay a bit angry, what she did was not fair to you or the kids. She was selfish and self-centered- probably still is. Just that now she's feeling the finality of things especially if her A is over. She needs to feel the consequences of the life she's created for all of you guys.

Stay cordial in your conversations but remind yourself that this was her decision not yours. When she was so sure about what she wanted now that she has it she's still not happy- thought that's a good thing. If she was happy it may hurt more.

Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6
Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks
Aug 2006, left again
Apr 2007, filed for divorce
Dec 2007, reunited
Mar 2010, moved out, filed again