#1 is accurate for how she feels TODAY. Feelings change and #2 can become accurate in time.
From this point forward, you will learn more if you reverse how you started out. You can direct the conversation.
She said if you wanted to talk, she would listen. So, it will helpful if you learn that when you talk, some of it should be in the form of questions. Telling her what you're going to do isn't as good as getting started on doing it, which she will notice. Don't go overboard. Overboard is manipulative and she knows it won't last.
From my experience, agreeing with my W's feelings was very productive. At first, I would think "but if I agree with her feelings, my butt is headed straight to divorce court". Wasn't necessarily true. It's kind of like the "shared reality" thing. "Shared reality" actually means she wants you to "share HER reality", that is to try to understand why she feels the way she does.
In Divorce Remedy, go back over #1 and #2 of mandatory DO's of divorce busting.
This stuff is no fun, but the good news is your W is ALREADY starting to talk to you.
