My W did indeed question from even before she filed as to whether divorce was what she wanted. She was (and in many ways still is) in a different place emotionally than I've seen her in our M.
You will have to decide on the risk factor as far as C with your W. If I remember correctly, she said she would go several months ago for closure. If I were you, I'd check in with the friends you have been talking to lately and get their input since they know both of you. It may be a risk worth taking at this time, but you need to feel comfortable with it.
Are the two of you not still in contact about the house?
I will agree that my W has been willing to talk to me pretty much this whole time, though the talks have not always been easy. You are correct on the kiddos.
