(((Bart))) - things have to get better, right??? Hang in there ~ had a brief episode of sun, but clouds are back - how about on your side of the state?
Me 45 M 25 yrs; T 31 yrs;bomb 8/15/06; moves out 7/18/08 D 18, D 14, S 12
Tried talking to her and she just blows it off. Legally I will push for full custody with limited visitation for her.
At the same time I will be contacting the pastor of the OM to arrange a conference between the three of us. I'm not sure what else to do. I've talked to STBXW's sister and she is going to discuss the situation with her. I'm positive this will make no difference.
This is going to be a tough week. I'm working to finalize the D tis week,
_________________________ Me-41 W-39 M-15 yrs T-17 yrs D-12 S-9 S-8 B 5/08 S 1/09
OK. I'm back. Still working on the D. Goal is to have it done this week. I'm struggling a bit with feelings of being a failure. I know its silly. W thinks she is totally in love with OM and they are planning on getting M soon.
On another note, I wanted to share with you how blessed I am. I was talking with D12 this morning and somehow we got on the subject of the things her mother is doing. I mentioned my concern that D12 would think it was ok to behave in a fashion similar to her mother. Her response absolutely blew me away. She simply look at me and said "dad, I know that its not ok to act that way. Don't worry about me. I am a completely different kind of person than my mom." When did she get so smart? Guess she gets it.
_________________________ Me-41 W-39 M-15 yrs T-17 yrs D-12 S-9 S-8 B 5/08 S 1/09
C-Bart, just found out my ex is engaaged with the OM so, I have a pretty good idea of what you are going through.
There is really not much you can do with the OM sleeping over, unless there is some type of abuse. I would focus on the kids when you have them and get the D done as quickly as possible. I hate to say the latter but distancing yourself from this mess is good defense.
