I feel H is trying to talk to OW again even though he uses work for an excuse or more recently our sick and dying friend. OW feels the same way and keeps putting him off.(confirmed by another person. I feel I have about had the course as I have been at this for to long and he doesn't seem to move forward no matter what I try. He treats me well but i still feel the dis-connection on his part and now I feel myself distancing.
Piecing is supposed to be about both of us working together and it has not really been like that. It is still H brushing things under the rug and hoping that it will go away.

I feel right now that if OW said I want you he would be gone.

You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez