Looking for help with WAW

[mza8]

Thanks again GM. I'm trying to make sure that I don't react badly. I don't want to make things worse. I concerned though because my W has given me zero indication that she would be willing to save the M. It's been 6 months now and she has not budged on being willing to talk to me to see if this maariage can be saved and if so what we need to work on. If I remember correctly your W seemed to have some doubts about D early on in your separation? She gave you some small signs that she might be willing to work on your M. Mine hasn't done that. It's still just no R talk from her, no indications that she would ever be willing to talk.

Learning that she called my friend back in February to see if I had told anyone about our separation really affected me yesterday. I'm still analyzing this today. Why would she care? What would she have to gain by doing this? I have to get over it.

I mentioned that my W's brother and I still get along great. He plays on my soccer team. He brought his fiance to watch our game this past Sunday. It was great to see her again, first time I've seen or spoken to her since my W and I separated. She was very nice and we talked for a bit. We didn't talk about my W or the separation. We caught up on each other lives. I thought it was good that some of the family is starting to feel comfortable to be around me again. I didn't mention my W at all. Seems like the family has no issues with me which is good. I didn't think they would. I'm sure it will get back to my W from these people that I'm doing well and I don't ask about her. That's a 180 for me as in the beginning of the separation I would ask her friends and family what was going on.

I have another C appt. in a couple of weeks. My C says that I should let my W know I have the appt. if she wants to join me and just leave it at that. Not pressure her to join me but just offer the invitation, sort of matter of fact like. I don't know.

GM, I forget, do you and your W have children? I don't think you do but can't remember. My W and I do not.