If You Forget Me #71

[AliSuddenly]

Hey I like June's post.. I agree, I dont hate bf, but sometimes I remember what he did and I pull back, or I am a little distant or even a little cold (for me) and it draws him nearer and yes, I still need that. I realise I am more like this NOW than I was last year - last year I was just too excited with the fact he had come back and pigs did fly! Hey did you see Yasmin bolands monthlies?? Interesting...

Monthly Pisces Horoscope - Month of May, 2010

This is a super sensitive period for you, no question of that. The way to make sure it goes as you want it to is be diligent about who you allow into your life. Anyone who hurts you on a regular basis or upsets you in any way needs to be e-j-e-c-t-e-d.

You've learned a stack about relationships (personal and professional) in the past few years, but apparently there are still few more lessons you still have to master! This is the message coming to you from the Universe. Don't resent relationship issues which come up now. Your most important lessons will be from the very people who are the most demanding on you. For some, an ex returns, this time for good.

[june72]

Thanks Ali...

[Kalni]

Maybe that it is it June and Al. Probably is. There are days I feel "content" and days I want to start crying but cant. I cant cry about the past anymore, funny huh? It's like "I dont have tears left anymore".

I am trying to focus on what WOULD make me happier. If I dont know what it is, he cant give it to me.

I need more discussion. I need to talk the A out of my system with HIM, not you guys, not my GFs, not myself. HIM.

I need to hear "I love you" from him

I need to live a symbolic gesture, wear a wedding band, throw away her gifts, move his stuff home. All the above actually.

I know what works with him and I dont do it all the time. Yesterday when I left home, I left a tiny bar of chocolate on his briefcase with a post it note saying "I do love your voice you know?". Because we made love and I didnt hear ONE word again. ONE [censored] word. Not even "turn around!1" LOL

So I come back, he is home early and shows me the note and says, "what is this" and I tell him with a smile and ever since he was loving and touching and tender with me...

One thing I cant get over is the fact that he took the lead and used so much energy to fool me to be with her but wont do the same to try different things with me. I need to be the one doing it.

He is home today. With the kids. Yesterday we had a good time together. When he is around, things are better.
K

[AliSuddenly]

I agree that you need to hear I love you from him, it must be hard to 'go on' not hearing that. I dont understand that one, perhaps .. does he feel he has no right to say it, after what he has done ?? My bf said that alot for months.. he had no right.. (not to say I love you, but other things). I dont know K, I dont know how you get that from him, although I am sure he does love you? Have you told him plainly, it makes me feel insecure and unsure of your feelings becuase you DONT tell me you love me, even if you do?? I am sure you have.. I understand the no tears left thing too. I felt the same. As I did, you cried an ocean over him..

Its been all over the news about Greece for days here, but this morning it looked bad (were they rioting near the Olympic stadium?). Must be a difficult time, thank goodness you live far from the centre.
xx

[Kalni]

Things are pretty calmer today. All the trouble was caused by max 50 persons that had nothing to do with political parties, demonstrations etc etc. They are the same people that go to the soccer games and make trouble... the state needs to identify them and lock them away. The murderers...Today there are pics of the husband that lost his 32yr old wife who was 4 months pregnant expecting their baby boy. Poor guy,he was...lost. broken, devastated... His life was interrupted my some stupid a$$holes !!

[Kalni]

Regarding H: his schedule is so busy he is trying to do his best but ...his is lacking hours and stamina.

I left him a little box with cookies on his briefcase. He called and told me he is so very busy,he didnt have time to eat "and Thank God he had my cookies" and added:"on his way to the newspaper he bought me conditioner and shampoo and creams from a natural products shop"... His way to tell me he feels bad. BUt I dont want him to feel bad. I want him to miss me.

He also said that on Friday they move to their new offices(morning job) and that he had planned to take me there yesterday but he had to go to work urgently so our plans were cancelled. So, he will no longer work close to her house and not in an office they had sex (quickies) in regularly.
K

[BobbiJo]

Hooray for the new location! Getting rid of some of the ghosts...

Yay to you for getting him little gifts, clearly he enjoys them! And shampoo is not super romantic but it is not an electronic device, so that is progress, right?

[MichelleLT]

That's cool that they're moving! Be nice to have a fresh start and get away from the places that have those memories haunting you both.

Why does him buying you nice shampoo/conditioner/lotion not equal him missing you? Or, how does him feeling bad not mean he misses you? I wasn't clear on that at all. You think he bought the stuff because he had to cancel on you? It seems to me it was possible he was reciprocating for your loving gifts with a gift of his own.

[awest1217]

I agree with Michelle. To me, the gifts are his way of showing he was thinking about you. He had to cancel on you which stinks, but he was thinking about and tried to show you.

[mishka422]

Ditto. I think he picked up the shampoo and stuff to be nice and reciprocate for the cookies. It was very thoughtful of him.